Are you going to get married? If so, then you should think about some questions before going to the registry office. Marriage is an adventure, but whether it will be lifelong or very short depends only on you. You, of course, have witnessed unpleasant divorces in your environment. In order not to repeat this mistake, take a little time and answer our questions.
1. Is your partner attracted to you both emotionally and physically?
The decision to marry should not be based solely on the external attractiveness of your soulmate. However, we all encounter beautiful people in our daily lives, so make sure that your partner is physically attracted to you beforehand. If this is not the case and you are unhappy with your future spouse's appearance, it can lead to other problems (e.g., relationship cooling, misunderstandings, and infidelity).
2. Are you ready to commit to spending the rest of your life with your partner?
Поверьте, это нелегкое решение. И вы должны убедиться, что готовы к этому пожизненному обязательству. Через определенное количество лет вы оба начнете стареть. Вы и ваш супруг/а будете меняться по-разному. Вы правда хотите провести остаток жизни и стареть вместе с этим человеком?
3. When you argue or disagree with your partner, what happens?
Can you always resolve the conflict? Fights and quarrels do not strengthen any family. Learn to compromise and solve various issues. A happy family is a lot of work.
4. Will you be able to be loyal and trustworthy?
This question has to do with being willing to spend the rest of your life with the person you're marrying. If you can't be faithful to this person, you shouldn't get married. Your marriage will be doomed.
5. Do you both have the same beliefs?
Sharing beliefs is an essential component of most successful marriages. This is another way that will help unite you and bind you to each other even more. And when your children (if you are going to have children) are older, it will be easier for you to raise them and instill your beliefs without conflict.
6. Are you the person he/she has been looking for and wants to marry?
If you don't fit into your future spouse's tastes at all, give him/her some more time to think. Remember, being married is not easy, so you have to find someone who suits your personality and character. You should not get involved with a partner who wants to cheat on you or is always in competition with you.
7. Do you have similar goals in the long term, lifestyle, views on family and marriage?
Imagine marrying someone who is used to traveling 6 months a year, while you hate traveling. How long do you think you would be happy together? What if you hate the cold and he/she loves it? Do you know for sure that your views coincide on issues of career, family, etc.? By getting married, you should help your partner lead a full life and should be interested in what your soul mate likes. Of course, you will have some differences in views and tastes, but let your differences complement each other.
8. Do you both want to have children?
If you want to have children and your partner is vehemently against it, you should sit down and discuss whether or not you should get married. Perhaps you will come to a different solution that satisfies both of you.
9. If this person is "incapacitated", will you want to spend the rest of your life next to him/her?
This, of course, is not a question that you answer with pleasure. But life is unpredictable. Today you can walk on two legs, and tomorrow you will lose them in a car accident. Will you be able to support and stay with your spouse forever if something like this happens?
10. Are you willing to put this person above your desires?
In marriage, you must both take and give. Especially during the first few years. You will have to reconsider your desires and adjust them. Are you ready for this? Yes, you may have to stop dreaming about buying the car of your dreams and give all the money you have so that your spouse can get a college degree. You will have to make some sacrifices.
11. Do you know how to work in a team?
It takes two to tango, and the same goes for marriage. You will no longer be alone when it comes to making decisions about your home, family, marriage, and life. If you can't work together or it makes you mad, don't get married. You'll be faced with things that will have to be dealt with every day, not once a week or a month. Marriage is a collaborative effort.
12. Are you proud of your partner?
When you spend time with your family or friends, you should be proud of what is being said about him/her.
13. Are you ready to accept your partner's family and support them if necessary?
You marry not only your partner, but also his family. In every family, there are holidays, weddings, birthdays, etc., which you must attend and take part in. Sometimes, as a couple, you will have to contribute financially.
14. Will you handle your finances together or separately?
Money problems are one of the most popular problems that lead to divorce. Make sure in advance that you have similar views on finances.
What should you do if, after going through all the questions, you got married, and your marriage ended in divorce? Life is unpredictable, so just use these questions as a guide to make a decision.
These questions will help you make the right choice, but they don't force you to get married. After marriage, you and your spouse must work hard to build a strong family. If you are not ready to try, be selfless, study and persevere in order to make your marriage happy, marriage is not for you!