How to develop a child's ability to independently solve their difficulties - advice from Maria Montessori
Наши дети часто окружены чрезмерной опекой, привыкли каждую минуту чувствовать поддержку и защиту родителей, и получается так, что первая же проблема, с которой ребенок сталкивается в жизни, ставит его в тупик. Ребенок просто не знает, как принимать решение, какие способы решения трудностей возможны и допустимы, а которыми пользоваться не стоит.
When parents begin to realize the scale and consequences of this state of affairs, they begin to look for ways to correct the situation, because lack of independence and infantilism are the most important obstacle to achieving success in the rest of their lives. How to teach a child of preschool and school age, to teach him to independently solve his problems in a children's team, to build relationships with teachers becomes literally a vital task.
Even the most dependent on the parents of a boy or girl away from relatives, surrounded only by peers, simply have no other choice but to learn to solve their difficulties on their own. And only parents can help them in this. Many do not know what to teach a child. The famous child psychologist and educator Maria Montessori built all her pedagogy on the development of independence in children as the first step to the ability to make decisions and be responsible for them. She noted that the child must first of all be taught:
- to be friends, to cooperate, to find like-minded people, to be able to deal with ill-wishers, not to create hostile situations, to be able to defend one's own dignity;
- not to be afraid of new things, to quickly and adequately assess the situation, to find the best way out;
- to take care of himself/herself independently, to solve household tasks available for his/her age, to help other children in this;
- Do not be afraid and do not hesitate to ask for help from both adults and peers if necessary.
How to do this specifically – find literature on the Montessori teaching with specific recommendations. At first, it will not be easy enough. But, the peculiarity of the Montessori method is that adults do not take care of them, but also leave their ward on his own with a difficult situation. Parents and educators unobtrusively teach him the main rules of such behavior in society, when a little person knows how to defend his own interests and rights, but at the same time does not infringe on the interests and rights of other children. These are, in fact, the basics of adaptation in this complex world and the basics of diplomacy.