How to make friends with your teenage child

How to make friends with your teenage child

Adolescence is a difficult stage in the relationship between children and parents.

Child's hobby. Take an interest in your teen's hobbies, no matter how silly they may seem to you. Be interested, ask, expand your knowledge in this area, and hold thematic events. You'll let your child know that their interests are just as important to you.

How to make friends with your child

Who are you? It is possible to help the child understand himself and his behavior by responding to his "antics". If the child boldly answers questions, it is worth pointing out to him that this offends and repels you. And vice versa, if the teenager was able to hold back the storm of emotions, praise him. Thus, it will be easier for an unformed personality to learn to live in society.

Studying is not the main thing. If your child is upset and puzzled, do not let everything take its course, considering teenage problems nonsense that does not deserve attention. Telling your child that studying is more important than all the "imaginary" problems, you will offend him, making him understand that you are not interested in his personal experiences and feelings. Help the child understand himself, and you will unconditionally gain the trust of your child.

General expressions. Pay enough attention to everything that the teenager says most often and introduce these words into family life. The child will understand that you communicate with him in the same language.

A little pro. Give your child every chance to feel like an adult and a full-fledged member of the family. Don't forget to ask for their opinion when making family decisions. Do not deprive you of the opportunity to be independent and responsible in any area of your life organization.

A caring controller. Learn not to show your obsessive distrust, because that's how teens perceive their parents' anxiety. Due to his inexperience and often irresponsibility, the child cannot cope with everything on his own, and the parent should strive not to control, but to guide and help.

A tough choice. Another common problem in the relationship between children and parents is choice. Teenagers strive to show themselves as adults, assuring their parents that their choice is conscious and correct. Parents often don't think so, and they're always right. Give your child the opportunity to make their own choices, and help them analyze the situation that led to it.

The correct "no". Age and a crazy desire to experience everything bring into the teenager's head thoughts to carry out an act, in the opinion of the parents, stupid. The main thing is that after saying "no" to the child, do not forget to listen to his arguments and give your arguments why your decision is the way it is. Never say a dry "no", this way you will only challenge the teenager to do as he wants.

Warm meetings. One of the surest ways to bring the family closer, show parents in a new light and attract the child to family leisure is activities held in a fun, relaxed and most importantly joint way. Make sure that your teenager sees you not only as a responsible parent, but also as a loyal friend.